A Muslim Guide 1

Lesson 1:

The Testimony of Faith
Description: The testimony of faith is by far the most important aspect of the religion of Islam, upon which the whole religion is built. This lesson gives insight into its importance and meaning.

Lesson Objectives

· To understand the importance of the testimony of faith.

· To understand the meaning of the testimony of faith.

Arabic Terms

· Shahadah: Testimony of faith

· Allah: Allah, one of the names of God.

· Tawheed: The Oneness of Allah (God).
Introduction

The core of the religion of Islam is the attestation to two phrases:

(i) La ilaha illa Allah (meaning ‘There is no god rightfully worshipped except Allah’)

(ii) Muhammad rasoolu Allah (meaning ‘Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah’)

These two phrases are known as the shahadah, or Testimony of Faith. Through the belief and attestation of these two phrases one enters the fold of Islam. It is the central belief that a believer maintains throughout his life, and is the basis for all his beliefs, worship and existence in this world.

Every Muslim, including someone new to Islam, has to understand the meanings of these two phrases, and try to live his life accordingly.
The Importance of the Testimony of Faith

This Testimony is by far the most important aspect of the religion of Islam, upon which the whole religion is built. Islam is the only true monotheistic religion, stressing that no worship should be directed to any other except Allah. It is a way of life in which a person obeys and worships the orders of Allah and none else.

This Testimony of Faith (shahadah) reminds us of our purpose in life, which is the worship of Allah alone. Allah says in the Quran:

“And I have not created neither jinn nor humans, except to worship Me Alone.” (Quran 51:56)

The message of the Oneness of God (Tawheed) found in the testimony was not particular to the message of Prophet Muhammad (may God praise him). It was the universal message of all Prophets of Allah. Since the dawn of humanity, Allah sent Messengers to every people and nation, commanding them to worship Him Alone, and to reject all false deities. Allah says:

“And indeed We have raised amongst every nation a Messenger, [commanding them] ‘Worship Allah, and reject all false deities.” (Quran 16:36)
The Meaning of La Ilaha illa Allah

The meaning of each word in the phrase is:

La: There is no; ilaha: god (diety); illa: except; Allah: Allah (God)

And therefore the literal meaning of this phrase is “There is no god (deity) except Allah”
First Part of this phrase: Rejection

‘There is no god (diety)’… Here, god with a small case ‘g’ is anything which is worshipped. Many people have taken things in creation as their gods and deities, but they are all false and are wrongfully worshipped, meaning that they have no right to that worship, nor do they deserve it. This rejection extends to all superstitions, ideologies, ways of life, or any authority figures who claim divine devotion.

Some people imagine the Divine Kingdom of God to be like earthly kingdoms. Just as a king has many ministers and trusted associates, they imagine ‘saints’ and minor deities to be our intercessors to God. They take them as agents through whom God is approached. In truth, there are no intercessors in Islam, nor any class of clergy to whom one must ‘confess’ their sins to be forgiven. A Muslim prays directly and exclusively to God. We also reject superstitious practices such as astrology, palm reading, good luck charms, and fortune-telling.
Second Part of this phrase: Affirmation

‘Except Allah’… After denying the right of any created being to be worshipped, the Testimony affirms divinity for Allah alone, with ‘…except Allah.’

Allah, in the Quran, mentions in many places that all things which people take as objects of worship besides Allah do not deserve any worship, nor do they have any right over it, as they themselves are creations and have no power to bring any benefit.

Yet they have taken besides Him other gods that created nothing but are themselves created, and possess neither hurt nor benefit for themselves, and possess no power (of causing) death, nor (of giving) life, nor of raising the dead. (Quran 25:3)

Thus, la ilaha illa Allah means, “There is no true god except Allah” or “There is no god rightfully worshipped except Allah.”
The Meaning of Muhammad rasoolu Allah

The meaning of each word in the phrase is:

Muhammad: Prophet Muhammad; rasoolu: Messenger; Allah: Allah (God)

And therefore this phrase means, “Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah”.

By testifying to this fact, one affirms that Prophet Muhammad (may God praise him) is in fact a Prophet and Messenger raised by God, amongst mankind to deliver the message of God, as were other Prophets and Messengers. Attesting to this fact implies a multitude of meanings. These include:

1. To believe that he was the last Prophet and Messenger.

“Muhammad is not the father of any man among you but he is the Messenger of Allah and the last of the Prophets and Allah is Ever All-Aware of everything” (Quran 33:40)

2. To believe that he delivered the message of Allah faithfully just as he received it without any deficiency. Allah says:

“…This day, I have perfected your religion for you, and completed My Favor upon you, and have chosen for you Islam as your religion…” (Quran 5:3)

3. To believe that he was a Prophet to all mankind. Allah says:

“Say: O humanity! I am Allah’s Messenger to you all…” (Quran 7:158)

4. To believe that everything he said about the religion was revealed from Allah. He is to be taken as an example and obeyed without reservation as he speaks in the Name of Allah and obeying him is obeying Allah.

“He does not speak from his own desire, it (his speech) is only a revelation inspired [to him]. (Quran 53:3-4)

“He who obeys the Messenger, obeys Allah…” (Quran 4:80)

5. We must worship Allah according to the law brought by him. He abolished all previous laws including the Mosaic Law.

“And whoever desires a religion other than Islam, it shall not be accepted from him, and in the Hereafter he shall be one of the losers.” (Quran 3:85)

6. Prophet Muhammad is to be loved and honoured. Knowing about his morals, his sacrifices for spreading monotheism, and patience with his opponents all increase one’s appreciation of him. The more we learn about his life and characteristics, the more we will increase in our love for him.

In summary, the testimony Muhammad rasoolu Allah means obeying Prophet Muhmmad in what he commands, believing him in what he informs, shunning what he has prohibited, and worshipping Allah alone the way he instructed us. These matters are not restricted to a certain people or to a specific time.

Lesson 2:

An Introduction to Pillars of Islam and Articles of Faith (part 1 of 2)
Description: The essential teachings of Islam are based on five principles, referred to as the ‘Five Pillars of Islam’, and six fundamental beliefs, known as the ‘Six Articles of Faith.’ Part 1: The meaning of ‘Islam’ and an explanation of the five pillars of Islam.

Prerequisites

· Meaning of The First Testimony: ‘Laa ‘ilaaha ‘illa llah’

· Meaning of The Second Testimony: ‘wa Muhammadur rasoolu llah’

Objectives

· Knowledge of the ‘Five Pillars of Islam.’

· Knowledge of the ‘Six Articles of Faith.’

· Meaning of ‘Islam.’

New Terms

· Iman

· Islam.

The essential teachings of Islam are based on five principles, referred to as the ‘Five Pillars of Islam’, and six fundamental beliefs, known as the ‘Six Articles of Faith.’[1] This division is based on the following well known hadeeth of Prophet Muhammad. Umar, one of the closest of companions to the Prophet, related the following occurrence:

“Once, while we were sitting with the Prophet, a man appeared before us whose clothes were exceedingly white and hair exceedingly black. No signs of traveling were seen on him and no one among us knew him. He sat towards the Prophet, resting his knees against his knees and placing the palms of his hands on his thighs. He then said: ‘O Muhammad, tell me about Islam.’

The Messenger replied: ‘Islam is to testify that there is no god worthy of worship except Allah and Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, to perform the prayers, to pay the compulsory charity ( zakah), to fast in Ramadan, and to make the pilgrimage to the House if you are able to do so.’

He said: ‘You have spoken the truth.’

We were amazed at him asking questions and then saying he had spoken the truth!

He then inquired: ‘Tell me about faith (Iman)?’

The Prophet replied: ‘It is to believe in Allah, His angels, His scriptures, His messengers, and the Last Day, and to believe in divine decree, both its sweetness and its bitterness.’

He said: ‘You have spoken the truth.’

Umar then related some more questions he asked and the answers given by the Prophet. Finally, when the man left, the Prophet asked:

‘O ‘Umar, do you know who was the questioner?’

I said: ‘Allah and His Messenger know best.’

The Prophet said: ‘It was Gabriel who came to you to teach you your religion.’”[2]
The Meaning of ‘Islam’

The Arabic word ‘Islam’ means to submit, a total surrender, a total resignation to God. Therefore, a ‘Muslim’ is ‘one who submits to God.’ Islam means to submit to Allah alone, to worship and serve Allah alone, and to believe and follow the prophet sent to them. To many non-Muslims, ‘Islam’ is a religion that began in the seventh century in the Middle East, but to Muslims, Islam has always been the only religion of Allah since the time of Adam, the first man. Thus, Islam was the religion of all prophets who came after him. In the time of Moses, Islam was to worship Allah alone and believe and follow the teachings Moses had brought, and Islam in the time of Jesus was to worship Allah alone and believe and follow the teachings Jesus had brought, as they were both prophets sent by God to teach his religion. After the coming of Prophet Muhammad, Islam is to worship Allah alone and believe and follow the teachings of Prophet Muhammad. Although the teachings of all the prophets about God, the Afterlife, and all other realities of belief were the same, there were slight differences in the methods of practice, worship and service, for each prophet was sent to a specific nation and specific period of time. Even though previous religions come under the general heading of Islam, the religion of Muhammad has specifically been given the name ‘Islam’ by God, as it is the final religion prescribed for humanity until the Day of Judgment.
The Five Pillars of Islam

Allah has mandated five acts upon which the whole religion of Islam is built. Due to their importance, the Prophet stated in another hadeeth:

“Islam has been built upon five…”

…and then proceeded to mention the same acts of worship described in the hadeeth of Gabriel above.

These acts of worship are called the Pillars of Islam, and they are as follows:
1. Testimony of faith (Shahadah)

One must profess this testimony of faith, summarized in the two testimonies:

(a) There is no deity rightfully worshipped but Allah

(b) Muhammad is His Messenger.

Through the belief and attestation of the testimony of faith (Shahadah) one enters the fold of Islam. It is the central belief that a believer maintains throughout his life, and is the basis for all his beliefs and worship.
2. Formal Prayers (Salah)

One must offer the five daily prayers at their specific times. Through the prayer, a Muslim maintains his relationship with Allah, comes to remember Him often, and avoids falling into sin.
3. Compulsory Charity (Zakah)

Those who have stored a certain amount of wealth must allot a specific portion of it annually to designated deserving recipients.
4. Fasting (Sawm)

Muslims must fast for a period of one lunar month, which is the month of Ramadan, by refraining from food, drink and sexual intercourse from dawn to dusk. The goal of fasting, as mentioned in the Quran, is to increase one’s piety and God-consciousness.
5. Pilgrimage (Hajj)

Pilgrimage to the House of God, the Ka’bah, in Mecca is obligatory for every able Muslim once in a lifetime. The Hajj is a physical and visual proof of the brotherhood of humanity, and their equality in servitude in front of Allah.

Lesson 3:

An Introduction to Pillars of Islam and Articles of Faith (part 2 of 2)  

The essential teachings of Islam are based on five principles, referred to as the ‘Five Pillars of Islam’, and six fundamental beliefs, known as the ‘Six Articles of Faith.’ Part 2: The six articles of faith and what they entail.
The Six Articles of Faith

Faith is referred to in Arabic as Iman. It represents firm belief in the heart, and not simply blind faith. Islamic doctrine revolves around six aspects described by the Prophet.
1. Belief in Allah, which entails the following:

(i) Belief in Allah’s existence.

(ii) Allah is the Lord. He is the Creator, the Provider, the Sustainer, and the Owner of the entire universe. None has any share in these roles.

(iii) Allah is the only being entitled to worship. No worship, service or veneration is to be offered to others besides Allah or along with Him, whether they be prophets, priests, saints, angels, idols, or stones.

(iv) Allah has the most beautiful and perfect of names and attributes, which none can be compared to. He is Unique, separate and unlike His creation. No evil or deficiency can be attributed to Him.
2. Belief in the Angels, which entails the following:

(i) Belief in the existence of angels, a creation of Allah.

(ii) Belief that they have no right to receive any form of worship

(iii) Belief in the names by which the angels are identified in the Quran and Sunnah (teachings of Prophet Muhammad).

(iv) Belief in the special tasks assigned to each of them by Allah in the Quran and Sunnah (teachings of Prophet Muhammad).
3. Belief in the Revealed Scriptures, which entails the following:

(i) Belief that Allah revealed scriptures to various prophets.

(ii) Belief that they contained the truth from Allah.

(iii) Belief that all previous scriptures other than the Quran have been altered.

(iv) Belief in the Quran has several aspects:

a) Belief that it is one of the scriptures of Allah.

b) Belief that it is the Final Revelation to humanity, and that no other scripture will be revealed after it.

c) Belief that everything in it is true, containing no falseness.

d) Belief that it has remained unchanged, and will remain so for eternity.

e) Belief that it has abrogated all previous scriptures before it.
4. Belief in the Messengers, which entails the following:

(i) Belief that Allah sent prophets to every nation, calling them to worship and obey Allah Alone. One must believe in all of them, known or unknown, without rejecting any of them.

(ii) Belief that they were the best of humanity, chosen due to their virtuousness.

(iii) Belief that they were mere humans, not divine in any way, and that they do not have any right to receive worship, nor did they claim so.

(iv) Belief that they merely conveyed the message from Allah and did not legislate from their own selves.

(v) Belief that they did not err in conveying the message.

(vi) Belief that obedience to them is a must.

(vi) Belief that Muhammad was a prophet, which entails those issues discussed in the lesson entitled The Testimony of Faith.
5. Belief in Life after Death and the Final Day of Judgment, which entails the following:

(i) Belief that a day will come when everything will come to and end, and Allah will raise the creation and judge them according to their deeds.

(ii) Belief that those who believed and practically followed the correct religion by following the prophets will enter Paradise for eternity, and that those who disbelieved will enter the Hellfire for eternity.
6. Belief in Divine Decree, which entails the following:

(i) Belief that Allah’s Foreknowledge is all inclusive and complete. He has always known everything that would or would not happen, even before the creation of mankind.

(ii) Belief that Allah has recorded everything that was going to occur until the Day of Judgment in a book known as “The Mother of the Books” or “The Preserved Tablet”.

(iii) Belief that whatever Allah willed has occurred, is occurring, and will occur. Nothing occurs against or without this Will.

(iv) Allah created everything.

We have mentioned here the minimal requirements of faith in each of these six categories that Muslims believe in, as the Prophet, may Allah praise him, mentioned that these articles form the basis of Islamic belief and faith.

In subsequent lessons, we will explore the essential teachings by studying each of the Five Pillars of Islam and the Six Articles of Faith in detail.

 Lesson 4: 

Some Common Questions by Recent Converts :

(1) I have recently accepted Islam, do I need to change my name?

No, you don’t have to change your name unless its meaning is Islamically objectionable. The Prophet did not order everyone who accepted Islam to change their names. Since Arabic names generally have meanings, he did change names with offensive or religiously objectionable meanings. And if the name is not Islamically objectionable, then it is recommended to take a Muslim name but one does not have to.

Even if your first name does contradict Islamic principles and changing it in official documents would cause you much distress or harm, then it suffices to change it amongst family and acquaintances

If you do change your name, do not change the family name or your father’s name, even if it be an impermissible name, but just your first name. Allah says in the Quran:

“Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allah.” (Quran 33:5)
(2) I am uncircumcised male who just accepted Islam. Do I have to get circumcised?

Yes it is mandatory to get circumcised after you accept Islam. However, if you cannot afford to get it done, or fear that it will harm you, then you can forgo or delay doing it. If you decide to go ahead with this meritorious act of worship, you need not go to extremes in hurrying to get it done. Make sure you find a good surgeon competent in circumcision before taking the step. The skin lesion takes about a week to completely heal. One of the benefits of having it done is that it makes it easier to clean yourself, and maintain cleanliness, after passing urine or emitting semen, both of which your clothes and skin should be free from during prayer.
(3) Do I have to say the testimony of faith (shahadah) in front of people?

No. You do not have to utter the two testimonies:

Laa ilaaha ill-Allah, Muhammad-ur-Rasool-ullah,

…in front of people to be considered a Muslim in the sight of God. You can say it to yourself.

What is important is that:

(i) you know the meaning of the testimony of faith

(ii) you actually utter the two testimonies verbally

(iii) your heart confirms it, you truly believe it, and intend to live by it to your best ability

The Messenger of God said:

“I testify that there is no god worthy of worship except Allah and that I am the Messenger of Allah. Every servant who meets Allah without doubting it will be admitted to Paradise.” (Saheeh Muslim)

He also said,

“No one says ‘La ilaha illa Allah’ truthfully from their heart and dies upon it, but they will be protected from the Hell-Fire (i.e. they will be admitted into Paradise).” (Saheeh al-Bukhari )

At the same time, it is perfectly fine, and to your advantage, to pronounce it publicly, like in a mosque, so people know you are a Muslim. In some countries one has to be registered as a Muslim, so, in the case of death, the person is given a Muslim burial. Also, it is good to get a letter at some point from your local Islamic center stating you are a Muslim. It may be useful when applying to go for the Hajj pilgrimage, or officially declaring a marriage in a Muslim country.
(4) Why is it necessary to say the two testimonies verbally?

A testimony is literally something which is given verbally and announced, not kept in the heart. Thus the testimony of faith must be announced, and the Prophet himself would tell one who wished to accept Islam to pronounce it. Furthermore, it should be said in Arabic, as this statement is a specific prayer which is pronounced in Arabic.
(5) What are the common Islamic greetings I should know for social occasions?

The most important ones are two. When you meet a fellow Muslim, the one initiating the greeting says, ‘As-Salamu ‘Alai-kum.’ The other responds, ‘Wa ‘Alai-kum us-salam.’ Men shake hands with men and women shake hands with women. Men who are not mahram[1] to women should not shake their hands.

Also, a Muslim says, ‘Alhamdulillah,’ (All praise and thanks belong to Allah) on sneezing, and upon receiving good news or stating a pleasant state of affairs.

If one states that they will do something in the future, they should say, “In shaa-Allah (God-willing).

Also, if one praises something or someone, they should say, “Baarak-Allahu feeh (may Allah bless it), or Barak-Allahu feek (may Allah bless you),” respectively.

All these sayings have been taught by the Prophet of Islam.
(6) I have recently accepted Islam. I felt euphoric at the time, but sometimes I wonder if Islam is bringing me closer to God?

Without a doubt Islam brings a person closer to his Creator. God loves and wants you to be a Muslim. Rest assured of that. Islam links the human being to his true Lord through the belief in the oneness of God and through various acts of worship. The more one worships Allah, the more he draws near to Him. One will never be able to draw near to Allah except by first performing the obligatory deeds, as the Prophet, may God praise him, said:

“God Almighty said, ‘I have declared war on whoever shows enmity to a beloved slave of mine. My slave does not draw near to Me with anything I love more than by performing what I have obligated upon him, and he continues to draw near to Me with voluntary actions of worship until I love him. When I love him, I become his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. If he were to ask Me for something, I would give it to him. If he were to ask Me for refuge, I would give him refuge. (Saheeh Muslim) ” [This Prophetic narration is not to be taken literally, rather what is meant is that the person will act according to that which pleases God. For example, he will not look at impermissible things, will only listen to that which is useful and beneficial such as listening to the Quran, Islamic lectures, etc.]

Stick the course. Be patient. Allow yourself time to grow as a Muslim. Learning is important and so is making good Muslim friends.
(7) I am new to Islam but I don’t know any Muslims, and I am scared to approach a mosque, is there anyone available to help me?

You are welcome to go through the e-learning content of our website. You can also contact us via the support page and we will be happy to put you in contact with fellow Muslims close to you. We pray to God to bless you, and to make you steadfast in holding fast to the truth. God is the One who guides to the path of truth and light.
(8) Someone told me that Muslims cannot have any relationship with non-Muslims, is this true? All my family are non-Muslims and I don’t want to cut ties with my family.

Beware of false information. What you were told is incorrect. Islam encourages us to be kind and generous to our relatives whether they are Muslim or not. Especially, one’s parents have great rights over us. You will find lessons where you will learn more about this.
(9) I heard that it is obligatory to attend the Jumu’ah Friday Prayer. What happens if my employer doesn’t give me the time off to attend?

You do not have to necessarily tell your employer you attend Jumu’ah prayer. The Jumu’ah Prayer lasts about 45 min -1 hr, so you can use your lunch break. If need be, arrange to take a slightly longer lunch break and make up for the time. In any case, you have the right to ask your employer for time off for Jumu’ah Prayer on Friday. For specific legal advice, please contact the websites listed below.

 Lesson 5:

Importance of Seeking Knowledge:

No other religion or institution gives as much importance to knowledge as the religion of Islam. The religion has made seeking knowledge incumbent upon all Muslims and has deemed that not doing so as a sin. The Prophet, may Allah praise him, said in an authentic narration (hadeeth):

“Seeking knowledge is an obligation upon every Muslim.” (Al-Tirmidhi)

This obligation is not limited to a certain sex or class, but rather it is as much as an obligation upon women as it is for men, the young and the old, and the poor and the rich. Allah has raised the ranks and status of those who have knowledge, and has praised them in many places in the Quran. Allah says:

“Allah raises of those who believe and those who have been given knowledge many levels.” (Quran 58:11)

There is a great difference between a Muslim who has knowledge and one who does not. The Prophet described this in his saying:

“The excellence of a scholar over another (ordinary) worshipper is like the excellence of the full moon over the rest of the heavenly bodies.” (Abu Dawood)

He also said:

“The excellence of a scholar over another (ordinary) worshipper is like the excellence of me over the least of you.” (Al-Tirmidthi)

Why has Allah given such preference to those who have knowledge to those who do not? The role of the Prophets was to impart knowledge to the creation, knowledge directly from our Creator, about His Self and Attributes, as well as how humans are to please Him and avoid His anger. Here we see the importance of knowledge in the life of a Muslim. In order that He worship Allah correctly, do deeds which please Allah and avoid what angers Him, the Muslim must seek knowledge. If they do not, they will live their entire lives doing things which might actually oppose the teachings of the religion, causing him to earn the punishment of Allah instead of His forgiveness.
What Should I Learn?

So the question arises, if it is an obligation to seek knowledge of the religion, and the fields of knowledge within the religion are so vast, what type of knowledge is obligatory to seek? Imam Ahmed bin Hanbal, a great scholar of Islam, answered that it is obligatory for every Muslim individual to seek that type of knowledge which will allow him to practice his religion properly. The following are examples:

1) Islamic beliefs. This is by far the most important aspect of the religion a person must learn, for through this aspect a person actually becomes Muslim. The first thirteen years of the Prophet Muhammad’s call was devoted to correcting people’s beliefs about Allah, emphasizing that no worship was to be directed to any but Him Alone, while only a few of the other commandments were revealed at that time.

2) The knowledge of the obligatory aspects of worship. As we know, Allah has commanded Muslims to perform certain acts of worship. Many of these acts are obligatory and, in turn, one must know how to perform them. For example, Allah has obligated upon us to pray a minimum of five times per day, so it becomes obligatory upon us to know how to pray properly, bearing in mind what is permissible and impermissible for us to do during the Prayer. Also, as one of the conditions of the Prayer is to purify oneself, a person must know how to do so. This also holds true for the rest of the commandments of Allah.

3) Knowing what is permissible and impermissible in daily life. By the Mercy of Allah, He has encouraged us to enjoy a countless number of bounties which He created. At the same time, He has also warned us from certain things due to the physical or spiritual harm resulting from their indulgence. It then becomes obligatory for us to learn these aspects of the religion so that we may not intentionally commit or accidentally fall into these impermissible acts. An important note to mention is that Muslims must be sure they learn those rulings related to their field of work, whether it be medicine, trade, law, or any other field, in order that they carry out their work according to the guidelines of the religion.

4) Last but not least, a person must also learn how to purify their hearts and deeds from blameworthy traits. Muslims must know how to purify their hearts from the love of wealth, status, and fame, and how to make one’s love for Allah alone. They must also learn the lofty manners taught to us by the religion of Islam, and try to pattern our lives according to Prophet Muhammad, may Allah praise him.
Patience in the Path to Paradise

Learning knowledge is something which must be done, but it need not be done so all at once, as the great scholar az-Zuhri said, “Whoever seeks knowledge in one go, it will leave him at one go. Rather, knowledge is only sought through the passing of nights and days.” One should make a firm intention, and have patience throughout their search. Some aspects may be easy, but some might be harder to achieve. Bear in mind that when one tries to learn while it is hard for him, they will receive a double reward from Allah due to the effort they spent in seeking it, and Allah’s bounty is indeed limitless. The Prophet said:

“Whoever reads the Quran and stutters while reading, due to its difficulty, will receive a double reward.” (Saheeh Muslim)

There are many ways to learn the religion, the best being directly learning it from a knowledgeable and righteous Muslim. But as they are not always available, one must look for other ways, such as good books, cassettes, and websites to fulfill this goal. Do not try to tackle those issues which require much study in the beginning; rather, prioritize the material of study in order of importance. One of the means to learn the religion is from this website, which has been established for you to learn the basics of your religion from authentic sources in an easy, step by step manner. We encourage you to read the lessons we have prepared for you, and to answer the questions related to each in order to test yourself. Do not proceed to the next lesson until you have fully understood the previous one, as these lessons have been prepared for your own benefit. Do not be concerned about the time it takes for you to fully understand the material, for you are gaining reward for each second you spend while doing it. Learning your religion will make easy for you the path to Paradise, as Prophet Muhammad said:

“Whoever treads a path in seeking knowledge, Allah will make easy for him the path to Paradise.” (Al-Tirmidthi)
Keenly Seek Knowledge

The Prophet, may Allah praise him, said:

“When Allah wishes good for a person, He makes him understand the religion.” (al-Bukhari)

The Companions, may Allah be pleased with them all, were very keen on gaining knowledge. Look at how keen Abdullah b. Abbas, the cousin of the Prophet, was to seek knowledge. He devoted himself to acquiring knowledge in a wide variety of fields. He had a special admiration for persons like Zaid b. Thabit, who was one of the scribes of the Quran, the leading judge and jurist in Medina, and an expert in the laws of inheritance and in reading the Quran. Once when Zaid intended to travel, the young Abdullah stood humbly at his side, and taking hold of the reins of his mount he adopted the attitude of a humble servant in the presence of his master. Zaid said to him: “Don’t do this, O cousin of the Prophet!”

“This is how we were commanded to treat the learned ones among us,” Abdullah replied.

Zaid said in return, “Let me see your hand.”

Abdullah stretched out his hand. Zaid, taking it, kissed it and said: “This is how we were commanded to treat the members of the household of the Prophet.”
Fruits of Knowledge

To conclude, seeking knowledge is an act of worship that requires you to keep your intention sincerely for Allah alone and none else, seeking His Pleasure and reward. Do not seek knowledge to show off or compete with others, or to enliven one’s gatherings. The Prophet said:

“Whoever seeks that knowledge which is (usually) sought to seek the pleasure of Allah in order to gain some worldly benefit, he will not sense the scent of Paradise on the Day of Judgment.” (Ibn Maajah)

Also know that knowledge is of no importance if one does not reap its fruits, which is to practice the religion of Islam as Allah loves. So one should try to practice what one learns as living Islam is what takes a person to Paradise.

We close with some supplications which the Prophet Muhammad himself made in regards to seeking knowledge.

“O Allah! Bring us benefit by what You taught us, and teach us that which brings us benefit, and increase us in knowledge” (Ibn Maajah)

“O Allah, I ask you to grant us beneficial knowledge, good, pure and permissible sustenance, and deeds which are accepted by You.” (Ibn Maajah)

“O Allah I seek refuge in you from knowledge which does not benefit, a heart which does not humble itself in fear, an insatiable desire, and supplications which are unanswered.” (Muslim)

Lesson 6:

Description:

A two-part lesson providing a glimpse of Paradise and what it holds for the believer with reference to the Quran and the sayings of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). Part 1: Definition and types of happiness and the desire of Paradise as a significant factor in motivating a Muslim’s behavior and sense of happiness. 

What drives us? What makes us do the things we do? What makes us happy?

Many people will answer maximizing pleasure and minimizing pain is the ultimate key to human happiness.

If so, how come people can be happy while in pain and unhappy while experiencing pleasure? If pleasure is not the only motivating force that drives us, what does? What desires must we fulfill to live a happy life?

For most of those who see happiness in the carnal, rather than the spiritual, it is pretty basic: desire to avoid pain and anxiety, desire to spend time with relatives, desire to eat, desire for sexual gratification, desire for companionship, and desire for recognition to name a few.

Life for such can be toilsome, provoking the plain query; what is it really aiming for? In their quest for happiness, all too often people fall short of achieving any kind of inner peace. We think that by always reaching higher and accomplishing more – more money, a better body, the perfect mate – we will automatically be happy. That is an illusion. People get caught up in chasing the materialistic dream under the illusion money can buy happiness until they discover the limits of materialism. Impressing the neighbors and envy of possessions leaves us devoid of passion and depth in our lives, leading to the Modern Man’s Paradox: Spiritual hunger in an age of plenty.

What is the paradox? Simply put, it is this: As members of certain materialistic societies have grown richer, they have grown less content with their lives. No society in the history of the world has ever enjoyed the standard of living known today in these societies: Incomes are up, prices are stable, unemployment is down, life expectancy is rising; they enjoy more freedom and opportunity than ever before. Even their poor live well by world standards. Yet in America, for example, since 1960, the divorce rate has doubled, teen suicide has tripled, violent crime has quadrupled, the prison population has quintupled, and some estimates put the incidence of depression in the year 2000 at ten times what it was in the year 1900. Americans are less happy today than they were 40 years ago, despite the fact that they make 2.5 times as much money. Our bellies may be filled, but we are left spiritually hungry.

To find out what really drives human behavior, two kinds of happiness must be distinguished: feel-good happiness and value-based happiness. Feel-good happiness is sensation-based pleasure. When we joke around or eat our favorite food, we experience feel-good happiness. This type of happiness rarely lasts longer than a few hours at a time.

Value-based happiness is a sense that our lives have meaning and fulfill the larger purpose of our existence by connecting us to Allah. It represents a spiritual source of satisfaction, stemming from our deeper purpose and values. Living a God-conscious life rooted in the values of the Quran and Sunnah, a Muslim is driven – beyond sensual pleasures – by the desire to make it to Paradise and to be safe from Hell after death.

Islamic values that take a person towards Paradise and away from Hell are the most significant factors in motivating a Muslim’s behavior and in contributing to his or her sense of happiness. The desire to achieve Paradise in the afterlife puts the meaning back into life, superseding all other desires, to bring a sense of direction. An empty lifestyle focused on wealth, possessions, drugs, alcohol, and sex is replaced with the hope of making it to Paradise, a sense of connection with God’s creation, and a life of devotion to Allah instead of wealth and possessions. A person is focused on pleasing Allah even at the cost of our fellow human beings’ disapproval. One must remember that the jewel of Paradise is veiled by hardships.

To be happy, wake up from materialistic dreams and realize nothing save Allah alone is capable of satisfying man!

Ultimate satisfaction will be in reaching our ultimate goal – Paradise, not in this world, where we are like travelers and strangers. Paradise is not God’s residence, or a spiritual state where one becomes a part of God, as some mistakenly think. Paradise is a spiritual and sensual residence of pleasure in which all one’s senses will be gratified to the fullest. It is an abode of manifold enjoyments for the faithful, its dwellers will not feel the least pain or sadness. A place where every aspiration will be finally realized.
Islamic Gardens

Jannah (a beautiful garden) has historically inspired beauty, something which can be clearly seen in the beautiful gardens which were present throughout the Muslim world, such as those in Persia, Spain, and India, typically designed as a sort of escape or peaceful seclusion from the outside world. Waterworks and fountains were a common inclusion in Muslim gardens for their free flowing beauty and soothing sound. Artificial decorative elements were used in Muslim gardens as well, including the making of carpet-like parterres, and artificial trees and flowers made of precious metals and gemstones.

For generations of Muslims, these gardens represented a kind of sacred art, the aim of which was to draw the visitor closer to God. Today, the Muslim gardens on earth are like shadows of the true Paradise. These gardens serve as reminders to mankind of the heavenly abode to which the righteous will return.

Shade is provided by canopies and pavilions. Emphasis is placed on creating a space that indulges all the senses. Fragrance is a common feature of Muslim gardens, and herbs were potted up to fulfill this role. The decking provides a space for teaching and relaxing. Muslim gardens never contain statues, carved stone fountains with figures, or representational sculptures. Islam does not allow the use of such images. Some Muslim gardens are so famed for their beauty that people come from far and wide to enjoy their tranquility. Among them are the Alhambra Palace garden in Granada, Spain, the Jag Mandir Palace garden in India and the Major Elle residence garden in Marrakech, Morocco.

The lush gardens created by Muslims are man-made inspirations for an earthly Paradise. A secret haven secluded from the outside world; a place of tranquility, meditation, reflection, and prayer. A modest prelude for what it is to come for believers in the Hereafter.

Lesson 7: 

The Joys of Paradise :

Those who enter Paradise will do so in their most perfect, beautiful form. Their hearts will be one. They will neither spit, nor blow their noses, or defecate. They will remain young forever, strong and potent without the inconveniences of body hair.

The worldly pleasures pretty much fade in the face of heavenly delights. The pleasures of this world are fleeting and short-lived, for ‘…short is the enjoyment of this world,’ whereas the joys of Paradise will be unending, as ‘…the provision is eternal.’

The fine clothes, delicious foods, soothing drinks, ornate jewels, and grand palaces in Paradise are far superior to what is in this world. The ‘real estate’ of Paradise is described by the Prophet to be better than the whole world!

Paradise is free of any pollutants, foul odors, pain, or discomfort. The hearts and speech will be pure. No one will be offended or insulted.

The delicious, ripe fruits of Paradise will be within easy reach, ready for its residents to pick whatever fruit one desires. Any food or drink will be available on demand. Paradise has seas of water, wine, milk, and honey from which rivers will flow out. You simply take your pick! It has fountains scented with camphor and ginger, and shady valleys. The wine will not cause hangovers. It is “delight for those who drink”, bringing neither drunkenness[1] nor rousing folly or quarrelling.

The inhabitants of Paradise will be served in gold and silver goblets and dishes. Their finest silk clothes will be decorated with gold, silver, and pearls…better than any man-made garment! The scent of Musk will emanate from their bodies.. Their palaces will distinguished by refined elegance and be fully furnished. They will be able to sit and recline in their gardens. The beautiful bright colored couches will be lined with silk brocade. Eye catching cushions and splendid carpets will add style and luxury. A cozy place most people can simply dream of in this world, and tranquil spot away from distractions; peaceful, comfortable, and richly decorated.

The faithful, who ‘will be served by immortal youths, with cups, and jugs, and a glass from the flowing wine;’ exquisite banquets served in priceless vessels.

The faithful will visit one another and reunite with family and friends who made it to Paradise. All wishes will be fulfilled, some in the strangest ways. The Messenger of Allah said:

“If the believer in Paradise wishes for a child, it will be conceived and delivered, and will grow to the desired age in an instant.” (Al-Tirmidhi)

Naturally, running after worldly pleasures at the cost of heavenly delights will be a cause of much sorrow for people who will enter Hell.
Spouses & Intimacy in Paradise

Just as some people can’t perceive colors, so we may be soul-blind and soul-deaf. The soul’s yearnings simply don’t get through to consciousness; or if they do, we try to numb ourselves to them with medications or frenzied activities. The resulting alienation within our very hearts bears its own loneliness. The soul wants to be attached and involved, because it is through such intimacy that it is nourished, initiated, and deepened. The faithful will enjoy earthly and heavenly spouses in Paradise to satisfy the soul’s cravings for companionship and intimacy. All the urgencies of the soul – the feeling of longing, the ache of desire for a beautiful, compatible partner, and the urgency to visit old friends – will be met. The select will rejoice in the company of the parents, spouses and children who were believers.

The faithful will be clothed in the richest silks and brocades, and adorned with bracelets of gold and silver, and crowns set with pearls, and will make use of silken carpets, couches, and pillows. In order to enjoy all these pleasures, Allah will grant them perpetual youth, beauty, and vigor. There is a hadeeth which states that they will enter Paradise “aged thirty-three years.” It is the most perfect age at which one is most able to enjoy physical pleasures, and the age at which one’s health and strength are most perfect. It is proven from the Prophet they “will never lose their youth.”

The faithful will enter Paradise in the best and most perfect condition in all senses. They will remain young forever, their eternal delight will be unending, and they will live a life of unspoiled joy.

The faithful will enjoy specially crafted maidens, or houris, of Paradise, created not of clay, as in the case of mortal women, but of pure musk, and free from all natural impurities, defects, and inconveniences. They will be beautiful, modest, and secluded from public view in pavilions of hollow pearls. Thus the body will have its share of gratification.

Vision of Allah:

In heaven the faithful will see Allah, clearly and distinctly. Here on earth we “see” Him but indirectly through the mirror of creation.

In Paradise, no creature will stand between Allah and the faithful who will delight in His glimpse. The most wonderful melody of all will be the voice of Allah greeting the select.

Since in beholding Allah face to face the faithful will find perfect happiness and ultimate delight, the vision may be called “beatific”. The joy of looking at Him will be greater than any other joy of Paradise, the rivers, palaces, tents of pearl, the pure spouses or the food and drink. All other joys will pale in comparison to the joy of looking at the most beautiful Face of Allah.

He says:

“Some faces that Day shall be radiant looking at their Lord.” (Quran 75:22-23)

So the faces of the faithful will also radiate and become beautiful with His Light.

The Prophet said:

“When the people of Paradise enter Paradise, Allah will say, ‘Do you want anything more?’ They will say, ‘Have You not brightened our faces, admitted us to Paradise and saved us from Hell?’ Then the veil will be lifted and they will not have seen anything more dear to them than looking upon their Lord, may He be glorified and exalted. This is what is meant by ‘even more.’” Then he recited the verse:

“For those who have done good is the best reward and even more (i.e. having the honor of glancing at the Countenance of Allah)” (Quran 10:26)

Once you know that the people of Paradise will not be given anything dearer than looking upon the Face of their Lord, imagine the deprivation of the sinners described by Allah:

“Nay! Surely, they (evil doers) will be veiled from seeing their Lord that Day” (Quran 83:15)

People said: “O Messenger of Allah, will we see our Lord on the Day of Resurrection?” The Messenger of Allah, may Allah praise him, said: “Do you doubt that you see the moon on the night when it is full?” They said, “No, O Messenger of Allah.” He said, ‘Do you doubt that you see the sun when there is no cloud?” They said, “No, O Messenger of Allah.” He said, “You will see Him likewise…”

Let us pray to Allah to keep us steadfast in this life and to grant us Paradise from His mercy in the life to come and to grant us His vision.

  Lesson 8:

How to Pray for a Recent Convert (part 1 of 2) :

What is Ablution (Wudoo’)?

Wudoo’, translated as ablution, is done before certain acts of worship. It is basically washing of one’s face, hands and arms, then wiping the head and ears, and finally washing the feet.
When Should I Perform Ablution (Wudoo’)?

A Muslim must perform ablution before he performs the prayer (salah) if he enters a state of ritual impurity, namely due to one of the following causes:

(1) Breaking wind.

(2) Urination.

(3) Defecation (passing feces).

(4) Deep sleep.

These things are considered to ‘invalidate’ or ‘break’ ablution (wudoo’). For example, you must perform ablution after waking up in the morning to pray your morning prayer (salah), because sleeping “breaks” the ablution. After using the toilet, you have to perform ablution before you can perform prayer because urinating and defecating “break” the ablution.
How to Perform Ablution?

Before you perform ablution, you should make sure your body parts are not soiled with impurities. Make sure you have wiped off all traces of urine or feces with toilet paper or water after having used the toilet.

Ablution is done in the following order:

1. Intend in your heart that you are performing ablution in order to enter a state of purity for salah.

2. Begin with the name of Allah by saying, ‘Bismillaah’ which means, ‘I begin with the Name of Allah.’
3. Rinse the mouth. This can be done once, twice or thrice. See Figure 1.

Figure 1

4. Clean the nostrils by sniffing water and blowing it. This can be done once, twice or thrice. See Figure 2.

Figure 2

5. Wash the face from the hairline to the chin and jawbone, from ear to ear. This can be done once, twice or thrice. See Figure 3.

Figure 3

6. Wash the hands and arms up to and including the elbows. This can be done once, twice or thrice. Begin with the right hand. See Figure 4.

Figure 4

7. After wetting the hands again, wipe the entire head by putting the hands at the front of your head and take them to the back of the head, then bring them back to the place where you started. This is to be done only once. See Figure 5.

Figure 5

8. Wipe the inner part of the ears with the index fingers and the back of the ears with the thumbs. This is to be done only once. See Figure 6.

Figure 6

9. Wash the feet up to and including the ankles. This can be done once, twice or thrice. Begin with the right foot. See Figure 7.

Figure 7

What is Ritual Bath (Ghusl)?

Ghusl is the Arabic word for a complete bath. In certain cases, it is not enough to perform ablution before prayers. One needs to purify themselves by taking a full bath, that is doing the ritual bath (ghusl), before they may pray. You are required to do the ritual bath in the following cases:

1. The emission of semen or female orgasmic fluid, whether due to sexual intercourse, wet dreams or masturbation.

2. After sexual intercourse. More precisely, a bath has to be taken if the penis enters the vagina, regardless of whether fluid was emitted or not.

3. Menstruation and post-natal bleeding[2].

4. It is also preferred to perform the ritual bath upon entering Islam.

A female cannot offer salah (prayer) when she is experiencing menstruation or postpartum bleeding. After her bleeding ends, she must purify herself by taking the ritual bath, and then she may resume salah (prayer).
How to Perform the Ritual Bath

(1) Intend in your heart to purify yourself for Allah’s sake.

(2) Wash off any impurity that may be on the body.

(3) Wash the entire body with water leaving no part dry.

(4) Rinse the mouth and nose.

Lesson 10: 

How to Pray for a Recent Convert (part 2 of 2) :

What is Prayer (Salah)?

· Prayer (Salah) is the formal establishment of prayer required of a Muslim five times daily. Prayer (Salah) consists of specific statements and actions.
Getting Ready for Prayer (Salah)

The timings: The five daily prayers have to be offered within a certain time range. They are Fajr, Dhuhr, Asr, Magrib and Isha, and you can find the prayer timings for your city from this link:

http://www.islamicfinder.org/

The timings of the prayers vary from place to place. And this is why you need to find the prayer timings for your specific city.

The prayers do not need to be prayed exactly when the time starts; rather, they can be prayed at any time before the next prayer time starts, with the exception of Fajr and Isha. The Fajr prayer should be prayed before sunrise. For this reason, you will find the time for sunrise listed on Prayer schedules, and this does not mean that there is a special prayer for Sunrise. And the Isha prayer should be prayed till the middle of the night. However, due to necessity, the Isha prayer can be prayed up to the beginning of Fajr time.

The direction: You can use the same website to find the direction of prayers. The website will display the bearing on a compass after you have entered your city.

The dress: A Muslim man should wear something that at least covers him from the naval to the knees. A Muslim woman must wear loose clothing that covers her entire body and hair leaving her face and palms open.

State of Purity: One should be in a state of purity, by performing ablution (wudoo’) or ritual bath (ghusl) [this was covered in Part 1]. Also one should make sure that there is no impurity (such as urine or faeces) on one’s clothes or body. The prayers can be done on any clean surface such as the floor, carpet or a rug. Dust, mud or grease are considered ok and do not affect the prayers.
The Prayer (Salah)

The Prayer (salah) is to be said in Arabic and requires some memorization, so, it usually takes a little time to learn correctly and fully and get used to it. Not knowing Arabic should not discourage you; just pray the prayer (salah) to the best of your ability.

A new Muslim has to realize that the orders of Allah are to be followed within the limit of his or her ability and endurance. If you find it difficult to memorize all of what is necessary for the prayers, it may be a good idea in the meantime to write it on a piece of paper and read them in prayer. If you are unable to do even this, it is sufficient that you say any or all of the following instead:

· Subhanallah ‘How Perfect is Allah!’

· Al-hamdu lil-lah ‘All praise and thanks are for Allah’

· La ilaha il-lal-lah ‘No one deserves worship, but Allah’

· Allahu Akbar ‘Allah is the Greatest’

Here is an example of a 2 unit prayer (like the Fajr prayer), based on the last method of prayers explained above.

1. Stand straight facing the direction of prayer.
2. Raise your hands up to the shoulders and say Allahu Akbar. See Figure
1.

Figure 1

3. Then place your right arm over your left arm and place both of them on the chest. In the standing position, say Subhanallah. See Figure
2.

Figure 2

4. Then say Allahu Akbar
and go to the bowing position. See Figure 3. In the bowing position say Subhanallah.

Figure 3

5. Then get up from the bowing position to stand straight again. Say Allahu Akbar
while getting up. See Figure 4. Here say Subhanallah.

Figure 4

6. Then go to the position of prostration. See Figure 5. Say Allahu Akbar while
going down. In the position of prostration say Subhanallah.

Figure 5

7. Then come to the sitting position as in Figure 6. While sitting up, say Allahu Akbar. In the
sitting position say Subhanallah.

Figure 6

8. Then again go to the position of prostration (see figure 5). Say Allahu Akbar while
going down. In the position of prostration say Subhanallah.

9. Stand up again while saying Allahu Akbar and repeat Step 3 to 8.

10. Then come to the sitting position as in Figure 6. While sitting up, say Allahu Akbar.
In the sitting position say Subhanallah.

11. Then conclude the prayer by turning your head to the right then left, each time saying As-salaamu alaikum. See
Figures 7 and 8.

Figure 7

Figure 8

Here is an example of a 3 unit prayer (like the Magrib prayer):

Do steps 1 to 10, and then stand up again while saying Allahu Akbar and repeat Steps
3 to 8 and then steps 10 and 11.

Here is an example of a 4 unit prayer (like the Dhuhr, Asr and Isha prayer):

Do steps 1 to 10, and then stand up again while saying Allahu Akbar and repeat Steps
3 to 11.

This way of performing prayers is permissible for you until you can pray the actual prayer (found in further lessons) which can be done with the help of reading the prayers from a piece of paper.

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Lesson 11: 

Breaking the News to Family (part 1 of 2)

One of the tasks which is often most challenging for newcomers to Islam is breaking the news of their new faith to friends and family. Although one many be overjoyed in embarking on their new quest, starting a new, enriched spiritual life, they may find this task extremely difficult, fearing negative results and rejections from loved ones. One must be sure that they undertake this task with utmost care, as not doing so may damage cherished relationships, and one may not gain anything but hurt feelings.

This lesson contains some practical advice and some reminders that will perhaps allay your anxiety and help you deal with your loved ones with confidence.

First, congratulations for accepting Islam. It is the right decision and you should rest assured of that. Also, the fact that you have been guided to Islam is a proof that God loves you and will provide you the help you long for, for the Prophet, may God praise him said:

“For whoever Allah desires good, He gives them understanding of the religion.”(al-Bukhari)

Second, read the following set of advice and apply from them what is relevant to your personal situation.
Assess the Situation

Sometimes a new Muslim may feel that they want to let everyone know that they have accepted Islam, starting from their family. Some may feel that they are able to cope with any type of response, while others feel that their family will not mind, and may be even encourage the decision they took. The reality may be much different. Although some family members may not be religious, the fact that their loved one has chosen a path other than theirs, or simply because they fear for them due to all the bad impressions they have about Islam, they may react other than expected. This may be detrimental to a person’s progress after accepting Islam, and thus, one should think coolly and slowly and assess the situation well. After accepting Islam, one should concentrate on learning the basics of belief and worship and publicizing one’s conversion too soon, may make this very hard. Instead of the first stage being one filled with joy and inspiration, it may become one filled with argumentation and ill-feelings.

Announcing one’s acceptance of Islam is not a condition for being a Muslim, and if one feels that they would prefer to delay doing this until they are stronger in faith and knowledge or until they are independent, then this is fine. On the other hand, if one feels that their family will be accepting of their new faith then it is better to announce it as this will make it easier for them to practice the teachings of Islam.

And example of this is the great Companion of the Prophet, may Allah praise him, Muawiyah b. Abi Sufyan, who became Muslim and hid his conversion from his parents. His parents were very bold against Islam, and after thinking it out, and understanding the consequences of what his actions may lead to, he decided not to announce and publicly declare that he had become Muslim; instead, he chose to delay and announce his Islam at the right moment. This moment came when the Prophet, may Allah praise him, conquered Mecca. Muawiyah and his father along with others went to meet the Prophet, may Allah praise him, and declared their Islam before him.

When you do decide to announce it, keep the following guidelines in mind.
Seek Help in Patience and Prayer

Do not panic. Seek Allah’s help through prayer and contemplation. Let Him guide you through these moments. You have two ‘gifts’ from God: patience and prayer to give you strength. Allah says:

“And seek help in patience and prayer…” (Quran 2:45)

Any hardship you may face is only a test through which you will increase in faith and trust in Allah. You will learn to rely upon and seek aid from Him. Whatever the result, know that in the end, it will be good for you. How beautiful is the saying of the Prophet:

“How amazing is the affair of the believer! All his affairs are good, and this [merit] is for none other than the believer. If something good happens to him, he thanks and praises God, and that is good for him. If he is afflicted with some hardship, he is patient, and that is good for him.” (Muslim)

Ask Allah to ease your affairs and give you strength. Ask Him to make your parents accept your news comfortably. Ask Him to keep you firm upon the religion. Ask Him to make you a means of guidance for them. The following are some special prayers prescribed by the Prophet with which you may supplicate to strengthen yourself and religion.
Prayer 1

“O Allah, it is Your mercy that I hope for, so do not leave me in charge of my affairs even for a blink of an eye and rectify for me all of my affairs. None has the right to be worshipped except You.” (Abu Dawood)
Prayer 2

“None has the right to be worshipped except Allah, the All-Knowing, the Forbearing. None has the right to be worshipped except Allah, Lord of the magnificent throne. None has the right to be worshipped except Allah, Lord of the heavens, Lord of the Earth and Lord of the noble throne.” (al-Bukhari)
Prayer 3

The Prophet told us:

“The hearts of the children of Adam are as one between the fingers of the Most Merciful, and He directs them as He wills.” (Ahmed)

Pray with the frequent supplication of Messenger of Allah:

“O Changer of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your religion.” (Al-Tirmidhi)
Prayer 4

If you doubt your faith at any point:

· Seek refuge in Allah.

· Remind yourself you are on the religion of Jesus, Moses, and the rest of the prophets by saying, ‘I have believed in Allah and His Messengers.’[1]
Self-Assurance

Do not fear disapproval from loved ones or strangers. Some people suffer severe demoralization when criticized; others manage to gain new strength out of it. Islam brings a new demeanor, a new social life with renewed confidence, self-assurance, and social comfort. Islam indeed has the ability to alter personality for the good. As soon as faith enters the depths of your heart, you will realize that the whole world cannot be equal to living for one moment with this great blessing of Islam. Be forgiving and patient!
Talk to Someone You Trust

Talk to a Muslim friend you trust, preferably someone who has knowledge and wisdom. Find a good friend in whose life you will see the best of Islam in practice. The support of a loving friend will go a long way. Remember, heart heals the heart! Do not let your emotions build-up. Talk about it; there is no substitute for human love and caring.
Ways to Inform Loved Ones

All parents are not equal. Some are close to their children, others are distant. Dysfunctional families are also quite common. Some parents are supportive of whatever religion or lifestyle their child chooses, and others may vehemently oppose. In any case, it may be a good idea to let them know first that you have been reading about Islam, perhaps sharing some of what you learn with them before breaking the news, as that may come as a big shock. Take things gradually. In the end, it’s your call, as you know best the nature of your family. Most importantly, study the situation well before making any move, and don’t make and hasty decisions.

As mentioned earlier, if the situation calls for it, you may choose not to inform them of your decision for the time being. If you live with your parents, you can pray when they do not see you. You can tell them if you feel they will be supportive.

If you live on your own, this may be much easier. You can meet your parents face to face, give them a call, send an email, or write a letter. The best way, generally speaking, is face to face, as other means of communications may lead one to misunderstand the other party. If you are concerned for the social awkwardness that may result from embracing a religion different from theirs and feel intimidated talking to them about your religion, you may consider it a better option to write a general letter first. It will allow you to put your thoughts together, give them time to recuperate, and perhaps save both of you an embarrassing encounter.

Either way, you will have to meet them face to face at some point, and this will be the discussion of the following article.

Lesson 12: 

Breaking the News to family (part 2 of 2): 

Rights of Parents

First, it’s a good idea to know the rights of your parents in Islam, as even non-Muslim parents have great rights over you. Allah says:

“And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents” (Quran 46:15)
Why are parents important?

Being kind to parents in Islam is regarded as obedience to Allah and His Messenger, and thus will be rewarded for in the Hereafter. Respecting and obeying them is a way of showing gratitude to them for the sacrifices they made and the care they took in rearing you. Respecting and honoring them develops friendship and love, which is extremely important now more than ever, as they may feel you have rejected them in your new lifestyle. Remember that obeying and honoring your parents is a means of entering Paradise, and treating your parents well will be a cause for your own children to treat you well, God willing.

How can you be kind to them? Obey them, respect them, lower your voice around them, smile, be humble, do not show your displeasure towards them, serve them, fulfill their wishes, consult them, listen to what they say, and do not be stubborn towards them. Also, visit them, spend time with them, offer them gifts, thank them for rearing you and treating you kindly when you were small. Above all, pray for their guidance.

There, are, however limits to obeying them. Allah says:

“But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly” (Quran 31:14-15)

Parents are not to be obeyed if they ask you to disobey Allah or His Messenger and violate Islamic teachings. If you are faced with a situation in which you may become involved with something not permissible in Islam, try to get around the situation. If they serve ham for dinner, try to tell them you don’t feel like eating or something of the sort. In all cases, try as much as possible not to offend them.

When you feel the time is right and you wish to begin a dialogue with your parents about your acceptance of Islam, find things to thank them for, especially memories from the past. Tell them what a terrible child you must have been, and how bad you feel for having been such a bother to them. Clearly explain to them why you chose Islam. Let them know your relationship with them is intact.

Be careful not to get into a religious debate of ‘my religion vs. your religion’ with parents or anyone. If they ‘judge’ or insult you, or express ‘anti-Islamic’ sentiments, reject being embarrassed or feeling humiliated for your decision to be a Muslim. Remember the ‘gift’ of patience and let it go. Gain strength from the prayers mentioned above.

If they express their apprehension or fears, address them based on what you know of Islam thus far. Excuse yourself if they ask questions you do not have answers to. Realize you are still learning your religion. Do not try to ‘convert’ them or prove you are right and they are wrong. Try as much as possible to dispel any fears they may have about Islam or your acceptance. It is good to wind up any conversation by letting them know you love them and will pray for them. Some good gifts will also be an incentive for them to listen and an example of Muslim generosity, either of which might induce them to contemplate conversion themselves. Treating them in the best manner will make them feel as you are the best of their acquaintances, and that you sincerely mean well and desire good for them.

Remember change comes gradually. Few remain unaffected over time, and most will recover their relationship with you from the strain your conversion caused. Some, by divine guidance, will join you. Your relationship will evolve with time. It’s up to you. Actions ‘speak’ louder than words. Let them see optimism, persistence, and cheerful warmth in your relationship with them. Here is a beautiful story of one of Prophet Muhammad’s Companions. Abu Hurayrah said:

“I used to invite my mother to Islam, when she was still a polytheist. One day I called her to Islam and she said something about the Messenger of Allah that upset me. I came to the Messenger of Allah, weeping, and said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, I was calling my mother to Islam and she refused. Today I called her and she said something about you that upset me. Pray to Allah to guide the mother of Abu Hurayrah.’ So the Messenger of Allah said: “O Allah, guide the mother of Abu Hurayrah.”

I left, feeling hopeful because of the Prophet’s prayer. When I got home, as I came near to the door I saw it was open. My mother heard my footsteps and said, ‘Stay where you are, Abu Hurayrah!’ I could hear the sound of water. She washed herself, got dressed and put on her head cover. Then she opened the door and said, ‘O Abu Hurayrah, I bear witness that there is no god worthy of worship except Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.’

I went back to the Messenger of Allah, weeping with joy, and said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, good news! Allah has answered your prayer and has guided the mother of Abu Hurayrah.’ He praised and thanked Allah, and said, ‘That is good.’ I said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, pray to Allah to make my mother and me dear to His believing slaves, and to make them dear to us.’ The Messenger of Allah said, ‘O Allah, make this slave of Yours and his mother dear to Your believing slaves, and make the believers dear to them.’ There is no believer who hears of me or sees me, but he loves me.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)
Various Hadeeth

I will end with some beautiful Prophetic narrations which will give you the courage to be spiritually brave in face of real life challenges.

The Prophet used Paradise to encourage his Companions to stand firm. The Messenger of Allah passed by Yaasir, his wife and ‘Ammar, her son, when they were being tortured by the pagans of Mecca and said:

“Patience, family of Yaasir, patience, family of Yaasir, for your destination is Paradise.” (al-Hakim)

The Messenger of Allah, may God praise him, said:

“This world in comparison with the Next World is like putting your finger in the sea and seeing what comes back on it.” (Saheeh Muslim)

The Prophet used to say:

“O Allah, there is no life but the life of the Next World.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Saheeh Muslim)

The Messenger of Allah said:

“One among the people of the Fire who was wealthiest person in this world will be brought on the Day of the Judgment, dipped once into it and then asked, ‘Son of Adam! Did anything good ever happen to you? Did you ever experience any blessing?’ He will say, ‘By Allah, no, my Lord.’ Another one among the people of the Garden who was the most miserable person in this world will be brought and dipped once into it (Paradise) and then asked, ‘Son of Adam! Did you ever experience any misery? Did you ever undergo any hardship?’ He will say, ‘By Allah, no. I never experienced any misery and I never underwent any hardship.’” (Saheeh Muslim)

 Lesson 13: 

Getting Adjusted To the Muslim Community :

Part of practicing Islam is to participate in the community of faithful in communal worship. Like any faith community, it has certain characteristics, some good and some bad. The purpose of this lesson is to help you in the process of adjusting and becoming part of the Muslim community.

First and foremost, before you meet Muslims, you should keep in mind that Islam is perfect, while Muslims are not. They are, after all, humans. You will find some Muslims who will be easy to get along with and will make great friends, while you will also run into others who you might feel are insensitive or offensive. You do not have to be the best of friends with every Muslim you see, even if they be pious. Muslims differ in their education, knowledge and practice of Islam, cultural sensitivity, and social bias. Among them are saints and criminals, homeless and millionaires, doctors and cab drivers, racists and drug addicts. You will learn many things which Islam preaches, but you will see fellow Muslims doing the opposite. All Muslims are not the same. They are imperfect. It’s a simple point worth keeping in mind. Choose as friends those Muslims who are pious, actively follow the tenets of the religion, and also are easy to get along with.

Second, most mosques and communities are socially and racially integrated, but there are others which may found in locations where a certain ethnic groups are a majority, whether it be African, Indian, Pakistani, Bengali, Bosnian, or Arabs. Others may have been built to meet the needs of a certain ethnic community, or other reasons more cultural than religious. College and university mosques tend to be more integrated. Due to lack of interaction between various ethnic groups, you may find that certain stereotypes may have been developed between members of various races, such as whites, Arabs, blacks, Asians, or Latinos. Many of these stereotypical opinions have developed due to various reasons, amongst them TV, movies. Moreover, immigrant Muslims come from diverse cultures and may not totally understand or relate to Muslims of other countries, and for that matter, new Muslims.

Third, new Muslims may have some reasonable and some unreasonable expectations. Some rightly complain of social isolation, or a lack of quality educational programs for those who have newly embraced the religion. Some, with financial problems, expect immediate monetary help from the Muslim community, a demand usually difficult to meet. It is a good idea to find a family that will “adopt” the new Muslim and help them grow and develop social bonds. Try to involve yourself in various social activities, , accept invitations, and invite others over. In social gatherings, be prepared to repeat your conversion or reversion story often! If you are asked an inappropriate question, just say you don’t feel comfortable discussing it. Many Muslims don’t have experience dealing with new Muslims, and thus may not be sensitive to certain issues or questions.

Fourth, many times you will be given advice on matters of Islamic belief and practice, whether that advice be Islamicly correct or incorrect.. You should realize that every Muslim is not an expert on Islamic Law or creed. Being an Arab does not automatically qualify a person to interpret the Quran. The majority of Muslims have not undergone any formal study and practice Islam according to what they were taught from youth by the elders of their family. Many Muslim practices over time have been influenced by culture, and many times they actually conflict with the true tenets of the religion. Some Muslims may unknowingly have been influenced by some sects regarded heretical, or much worse, some may actually attribute to them. You might become confused by the multiple opinions you may hear. With time and some knowledge, you will be able to distinguish between the two. You will make your life easier if you ignore, for the time being at least, the advice of a person who fails to provide any evidence. All beliefs and practices in Islam must be taken from the Quran or a confirmed Sunnah of the Prophet, may Allah praise him. Also, try to get some well known websites and reputable people of knowledge as a reference. Reading, interaction, and prayer will help you learn, grow, and mature. In short, be cautious of those with good intentions but little knowledge.

Fifth, don’t be discouraged by Muslims who are too aggressive in approaching you. Some people might attempt to teach you everything they know in an hour. Somehow they feel it’s their duty to tell you what they feel is the most important ‘haram’ (a prohibited deed) you must rid your life of. They lack wisdom, patience, and perhaps knowledge. Do not be deterred. Find a ‘teacher’ you are comfortable with.

Sixth, many new, single Muslim sisters may feel an intense pressure to get married. There is no doubt that marriage is an important part of Islamic life, but allow yourself some time to adjust in the new faith, and learn the proper etiquette of Islamic life and marriage. Finding a compatible, practicing spouse is likely to help a new Muslim in learning and practicing Islam, but there is no need to rush into marriage and end up in divorce!

Seventh, a word about the Internet: It has some good sites, some sites that are useful to you, but many sites that damage you morally, financially and ideologically. You can find excellent resources for learning Islam online, but it is as easy to be misled by wrong information. The Internet has its fair share of pseudo-experts with a lot of spare time on their hands. Numerous email groups and chat rooms serve their audience with a mix of good and bad information. Many new Muslims are tempted into cyber dating to find a spouse. People report anger and frustration after having bad online experiences. The biggest problem for a new Muslim is to identify credible sites. The best word of advice about the Internet is to know who you are getting information from and to approach the Internet with caution.

Lesson 14: 

Keeping Good Company :

One of the best ways that the Muslim can preserve and safeguard their religion is that they be selective of who they take as friends and company. Without great effort, one can see the amount of influence peers have on each other. Sufficient is that saying of the Prophet, may Allah praise him:

“A person is on the way of life (deen) of his close friend, so let people look into whom they take as close friends.” (Abu Daawood)

An obvious fact is that close friends usually are so because of the things they have in common. They share the same interests and hobbies, relate to each other well, and try to please each other by fulfilling those things their friends like. For this reason, they are on the same deen, or way of life. If a person is a crook, he will have crooks as friends; if a person devotes their life to science, they will have other scientists as friends; and if one devotes their life to Islam, they will choose other good Muslims as friends.

When one chooses evil friends, they will encourage him to do evil deeds, or at the very least they will not encourage him to do righteous deeds. On the other hand, if a person carefully selects their friends and only accompanies the righteous, they will advise and enjoin each other with righteousness and piety, and prevent and warn each other from doing evil. A clear example of this is that if a Muslim who prays befriends a person who does not, when the time for prayer comes, their friend who does not pray will most likely not remind him that it is time for prayer. Rather, it may be that when the one who does pray wants to excuse himself to pray, their friend might even try to prevent him or tell him to pray later. Also, if one befriends a person that does not care much about committing sins, they might encourage their friends to commit the same sin. Allah mentioned what a person who had evil companions will say on the Day of Judgment in the following verse:

“And (remember) the Day when the wrong-doer will bite his hands and say: ‘Woe to me! Would that I had taken a path with the Messenger. Woe to me! If only I had not taken so-and-so as a friend!’ He has led me astray from this Reminder (the Quran) after it had come to me. And Satan is ever a deserter to man in the hour of need.” (Quran 25:27-29)

The Prophet, may Allah praise him said in regards to the evil companion:

“The example of a righteous and evil companion is like one who carries perfume and another who is a blacksmith. As for the one who carries perfume, he will either give you some perfume, you might buy it, or [at least] you will find a pleasing scent with him. As for the blacksmith, either he (the blacksmith) will burn his clothes, or you will find a hideous odor coming from him.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)

This is especially important to those Muslims who have recently embraced Islam, or those people born in Muslim families who have recently chosen to abide by the tenets of the religion. They may have many habits and may have become accustomed to various ways which are regarded as sins in Islam, and they need good company to help them in their struggle to put them aside. A good example may be smoking or drinking. If a person wants to “kick the habit” it would be detrimental for them to befriend those Muslims or keep company with previous friends who smoke or drink. Rather they should keep company with those who will remind them of Allah and involve themselves with learning and teaching the religion along with practicing its tenets.

Quite often, many of those who enter Islam face opposition, disagreement and harm, especially from those closest to them. You should keep this in mind and know that through this is an elevation of your level, a purification of sins, and a trial through which Allah is testing you, all to see the extent of your truthfulness and steadfastness on your religion. Having pious Muslims as friends will be an added support for you, and they will try to be there in your time of need.

There are many ways one can meet and befriend righteous people, and one of the best places is the mosque (masjid). There you will find the best of the Muslims. Allah said, describing those Muslims who frequent them often:

“The Mosques of Allah are frequented only by those who believe in Allah and the Last Day, establish the prayers, offer the obligatory charity (zakah) and fear none but Allah. It is they who are expected to be on true guidance.” (Quran 9:18)

If your mosque has classes, be sure to attend them, as the best of gatherings are those in which the religion of Allah is discussed. If you are a university student, a good place to meet good people may be the Muslims Students Association. If there is no mosque in your area and you live far from Muslims, you might consider moving to an area which has more Muslims. If not, you can at least try to attend a mosque in a larger town once a week. In the meantime, there are some beneficial groups and study circles you may find on the internet. At all costs, you should try your hardest to keep good company; people who will encourage and help you to practice your religion.

One may think that it is acceptable to keep close friends with those who practice other faiths believing them to be good people. We should know that the worst sin in Islam is that one follows a religion other than it. There is much harm in associating with people of other faiths. It is obvious that they do not follow the religion of Islam due to the doubts and confusion they might have about it. These people may openly discuss their doubts and confusion with Muslims, or try to convert them to their religion, either in an outright or in a hidden manner. Muslims who do not have enough knowledge about Islam may themselves start to doubt about the issues they raise. This is only one of the many detrimental effects which might result in frequent association with people of other faiths. This is not to say that you should cut off from all your past relationships, bur that you should be careful in who you mix with and to what extent.

It is not enough, however, that you befriend just any Muslim either. Rather, you should seek pious knowledgeable Muslims who themselves are trying their utmost to adhere to the tenets of the religion. You may see many Muslims falling short in fulfilling the obligations and refraining from the prohibitions of the religion. The extent to which one falls short differs from person to person, but it is all due to the fact that the Shaytaan (Satan) is trying his utmost to misguide people. Allah says:

“[Satan (Iblees)] said: ‘By Your Might, then I will surely mislead them all.’” (Quran 38:82)

Do not let this discourage you; rather, let this be your greatest incentive to try your hardest in serving this religion and calling to it.

It is also of utmost importance that you understand your religion from its proper and trusted sources – the Book of Allah and the authentic teachings (Sunnah) of His Messenger. Let the Messenger of the religion, Muhammad, may Allah praise him, be your role model and leader, and learn his biography so you can pattern your life after him. Try as much as possible to accompany the knowledgeable people, and other good practicing Muslims who practice what they preach, and know that not all of those who say they are Muslims should be trusted in knowledge. Rather, you must make sure and carefully examine those who you take your knowledge from or what you read by comparing them with the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Messenger, Muhammad, and his rightly guided successors. Take whatever is in accordance with his Sunnah, and leave whatever opposes it.

We ask Allah that He keep our hearts firm upon the religion, and not lead us to misguidance after Guidance has been granted to us. May Allah make us see the truth as the truth and grant us the guidance to follow it, and may He make us see falsehood as falsehood and grant us the guidance to avoid it.